Re: Friend with serious problem LOL I know exactly what you are talking about. The way I look at it is first of all I love going to meetings BUT staying clean has afforded me a life and a lot of responsibilities that I can't ignore. I go to meetings when I can and usually that's about 4 a week maybe. It is now my choice to stay clean, ya know? Alcohol and drugs isn't going to jump out of the bushes and go into my mouth or veins . I respect the people who don't go to meetings and all that because like I said I know there are a lot of ways people get clean and stay clean. I work for Cornerstone Of Recovery and I work with the 17 to 25 year olds doing all sorts of things. I am a Residential Substance Abuse Counselor in the process of getting my RAS and LADAC.. takes forever ha. And I tend to lean on the tough love type of philosophy as well. I've seen a lot of friends and family members "kill" someone by enabling them. We have someone here at COR who specializes in Intervention's and programs / Group therapy etc he is multi skilled, and on rare occasions I've seen someone get clean just because an intervention was done and he/she finally understood some of the damage that they caused with their addictions.