Chivalry, is it dead?

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  1. fastflyinaccord

    fastflyinaccord Well-Known Member

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    i was going for the ones that have spouses, sorry. :wub:
     
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    i have only had one girlfriend that ever HAD to paid for anything. i had a low paying job at the time and couldn't afford to each time we'd go out.. i always felt horrible because i was raised to pay, open doors, offer my coat if needed and not being able to pay for her felt wrong.

    went out sunday on a first date (only ever met her once so didn't know her well). although she kept offering to cover her part of everything i refused to let her. but at the end of the night it was worth every penny (and no the night didn't end up in bed). i learned a lot about her, had the best night i've ever had on a date, and set up a second date.

    paying for her is just a small way to show that she's worth it to you. if he's not ever willing to do that, and smile while doing so, then he is not worth her time.

    i think if you have been together for a decent amount of time then you can decide who is going to pay depending on the situation... relationships shouldn't be give and take. both should give equally. but like way to many people here have said for me to want to quote them all... it just takes communication.

    a relationship is like any straight road, there may be a speed bump or two, some roadkill (ex's) to swerve around. but over all it should be very easy to drive down. as long as you don't run out of gas you'll get where you want
     
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    How awesome would it be if girls thought this way about guys :wub:



    Anyways, the consensus seems to be have her talk to him about it. Based on his reaction, she stays or goes
     
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    CHIVALRY IS DEAD, these chicks wanna be catered to one second and the next they are running the world and can do what a man can do plus more......
     
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    hilarious analogy, but its true. I'm glad you had such a good time on your date, good luck on your future dates, maybe she's the one.

    I am heading to school in a bit and ill talk to her about it then. i don't think ill show her this thread though :lawl:
     
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    There should be a CLEAR distinction between "date" and "casual meet" ...some women take advantage of "gentlemen" who feel compelled to pay for a meal just to establish romantic interest
    In my personal life women have paid for me, and if the date is going well I contribute too, this creates the 50/50 reciprocal that male/female relationships should have.
    NEVER go around throwing on cape and boots with your wallet wide open thinking you somehow being "chivalrous"...she'll be laughing behind your back and never respect you as a DECISION MAKING MAN
    SHE'LL GIVE HERSELF TO.
     
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    you are right. my friend Josh is in love with one of my friends and EVERY TIME they hang out he pays for her food/drinks. She doesnt take him seriously at all, we call him a puppy because he follows her around and will do anything she says.

    If you are not "dating", split the check unless you just want to be generous, but don't get taken for a ride. I would never expect any of my guy friends to pay for my food, nor would I EVER ask them too.
     
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    girls do expect the guys to pay for the most part, but the guys are not obliged to do so.... it all depends on the couple and their situations IMO.... i pay for most outside meals while my gf pays for the groceries... i end up paying more, but at least we split the financial burden between the 2 of us... LA, ur friends needs to sit down with the guy and have a talk.. just putting it out there will help and would possibly lead to some actions... good or bad, it's still and action.. he might leave or he might change his ways... but tht's all up to them
     
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    He's trying to buy this love which is a big no no.

    This is how it should be. I'm not a cheap dude, but i'm not gonna go around and spent hard earned money on a female just because. OP'S friend situation is weird. This happens countless times to men where they're paying for everything. In this case, the tables are turned.
     

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