d1blet
Well-Known Member
Not so sure where else I could really put this...but here goes
(Sorry...not exactly the shortest of stories)
So I've been with this girl now for 2 years and 8 months. For me, that's one hell of a long time considering that we're still in high school. And I mean she was so awesome - she overlooked my failures and embarassing moments. She was always so loving and always so commited. I've always felt the same towards her for the majority of the past 2 years and some odd months. Thing is, I was always a bit reserved since she has these seemingly delusional dreams of us being "together forever". We both applied to the same university - University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She applied early and got accepted in October whereas I found out less then a week ago that I got accepted. Now her hopes and dreams of us being "together forever" aren't as far-fetched and I find myself in a difficult situation - to go along or to not go along. Seriously now, WTF. I'm her first BF and she's the third girl I've been with. There's no way in hell that I'm going to throw away my life in college just for her. I mean, of the three girls I've been with she's been the best of them. I mean she does have faults namely:
For me, that's enough to let her go. I think you guys will agree - she ain't "the one". Kinda close but she's not. Maybe it was all puppy love or high school love or whatever BS it is. Thing is I don't want to completely ditch her. We don't belong "together" but I think we can be fine being good friends. So...here's my question.
Since I already more or less told her that I was dumping her by explaining the reasons I stated above, how can I repair the damage so that things don't get ugly? She was really broken after this, crying in my arms for literally an hour before I managed to take her home. I've still yet to call her, but that's what I'm going to do immediately after posting this. We see each other every day at school (we share a locker) so I can always get a feel of how she's feeling. What can I do to make it seem like that we can be like "best friends" after coming out of a 2.6 year long relationship?
(Sorry...not exactly the shortest of stories)
So I've been with this girl now for 2 years and 8 months. For me, that's one hell of a long time considering that we're still in high school. And I mean she was so awesome - she overlooked my failures and embarassing moments. She was always so loving and always so commited. I've always felt the same towards her for the majority of the past 2 years and some odd months. Thing is, I was always a bit reserved since she has these seemingly delusional dreams of us being "together forever". We both applied to the same university - University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. She applied early and got accepted in October whereas I found out less then a week ago that I got accepted. Now her hopes and dreams of us being "together forever" aren't as far-fetched and I find myself in a difficult situation - to go along or to not go along. Seriously now, WTF. I'm her first BF and she's the third girl I've been with. There's no way in hell that I'm going to throw away my life in college just for her. I mean, of the three girls I've been with she's been the best of them. I mean she does have faults namely:
- She's not that much of a socialable girl and she's not very outgoing.
- We lack any sort of common interests - probably cause she doesn't have any except for playing the damn piano.
- She seems to have issues with making any sort of decision. Even questions over what to have for lunch always net the response "I dunno - you pick!"
- If you ask me, she's a bit obssessive and always in need of constant affection
For me, that's enough to let her go. I think you guys will agree - she ain't "the one". Kinda close but she's not. Maybe it was all puppy love or high school love or whatever BS it is. Thing is I don't want to completely ditch her. We don't belong "together" but I think we can be fine being good friends. So...here's my question.
Since I already more or less told her that I was dumping her by explaining the reasons I stated above, how can I repair the damage so that things don't get ugly? She was really broken after this, crying in my arms for literally an hour before I managed to take her home. I've still yet to call her, but that's what I'm going to do immediately after posting this. We see each other every day at school (we share a locker) so I can always get a feel of how she's feeling. What can I do to make it seem like that we can be like "best friends" after coming out of a 2.6 year long relationship?