H23 transmission swap (M2S4) and 11 lb. flywheel, or 8 lb. but that is less street friendly.
Until you do this you won't realize that one of the primary reasons the 4 cyl Accord is painfully slow is the absurdly tall gears and final drive ratio. This swap easily knocks at least 1 second off the 0-60 mph. Yes that's my butt g-force meter, but if you drive my car back-to-back with yours you wouldn't argue.
Revs will be pretty high at highway speeds, but there is the option of swapping the F-trans 5th gear if it bothers you - PM AFAccord.
Exhaust will give you more up top but you pay for it on the bottom end.
It's funny, I have a stock exhaust that I keep to pass inspection, and whenever I switch back to it from my Apexi WS II I am tempted to leave it on there. Power is smoother and there is definitely more torque under 3500 rpms. But there is no reward on the top end, instead the engine just feels like it's choking. I always reinstall the cat-back, it's just too fun.
Here's my best advice on the F23, if you don't like revving to get into the powerband, then leave the header and exhaust alone, and put that money into your suspension.
If wringing out the power is good times to you then open it up.
Trust me though you will not be shifting at 3,500 rpm if you get a cat-back, more like 5,500 rpm.
Dollar-for-dollar nothing will make the car quicker than the H23 transmission. If I am choosing between I/H/E and the H23 trans, I'd pick the H23 trans every time, even with no damn bolt-ons.
I'm exlcuding nitrous when I say that. I mean is it really smart to pop that on when you're trying to merge on the highway? Good gears are always there, they never run out, and they keep the car totally reliable. Presuming you don't drive it at 6k rpms all day long.