I actually have a new accord 1.5T and J35Y6 sitting here at work we assembled from spare parts of engine jobs. Just need timing components and fueling to drop into something.
You're asking questions on 10+yr old threads that have long since been either...
1) Forgotten about
2) Never finished/figured out
3) No longer have the vehicles
Long story short, stop trying to make an H22 auto trans work in your car. It's not worth the hassle, time, effort, etc. Find a...
Pinched seal, broke seal, material, corrosion, take your pick. Could be anything. Honestly, the aftermarket kits are just fine. No need to go OE on them. We use aftermarket kits all the time at work.
Those are factory fenders with side markers added in. You can find foglight kits on ebay or other places online. Check the members ride section for ideas