so
i did a fck load of googleing
and i am now convinced that it is the eld (electronic load detector)
i will still try out my DRLs sometime today
edit:
or it could be this im not sure its the same on our cars, but its for a 98 acura CL but it mentioned something about a 98 accord (what google said at least)
http://cl.acurazine.com/forums/showpost.php?p=6280566
referring to #2 on this diagram (thanks to sketch05 for the pic in his diy for the a/f ratio gauge)
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v335/sketch_o5/Gauges Install/f23aecuwiring2.gif
imma try to disconnect that tonight
and do that drl thing
and try disconnecting that eld thing
and see if anything works